In a decade that is so fast paced, full of stress and the constant pressure to achieve benchmarks set by ourselves or society we often forget to realise the beauty of cherishing moments.
All of us going through something another may not understand. Self love and self care often aren’t valued and we tend to be too hard on ourselves. This demands one thing of us..
To accept ourselves the way we are. We are all flawed. And that’s ok. It’s what makes us human. But we have the choice to be the most loving, kind, compassionate people. That’s is what is important. That is what we need to focus on. Not on something you feel isn’t right in your life or about you. We are all fine the way we are. And if you feel you are changing, that’s ok too. Learn to love the change about you.
With all the expectations that need to be met and are set by us, the people around us and even society, it’s notmal to think and feel that we aren’t doing enough or are not moving at a pace that we ideally should. And because of this don’t believe there is a right or wrong. Or that what you have done or are doing is right or wrong. You are a good person and that’s what we need to focus on, just remind yourself that. You should set your own pace!
The thoughts in our mind are fleeting. But you won’t be if you happen to trip over a step and drop your phone. Your sense will move to focus on that moment and how you feel about having cracked your screen, or the relief if you haven’t.
That one clumsy moment cannot define you. A zillion other things do instead. And you can choose what defines you. We should choose to be a good human first over anything else.
The same way your thoughts do not define you, or who you are. And if you ever spiral into any kind of thoughts that are negative or disturbing or give you stress, just think its not who you are. It’s just a thought and it will pass. And you don’t have to distract yourself if you don’t want to. You do what makes you feel good at the time, not what seems right or wrong.
If it felt good, it is right.
As stupid as this sounds, feel the cold floor with your feet when you put them off the bed. Feel how the shower water hits your back. Focus and think about it while it’s happening. Actually enjoying the food you’re eating rather than shoveling food down your throat with all the attention towards your tv. So on and so forth.
Taking control of your own judgement towards yourself and loving yourself will set you free of limiting beliefs as to what may validate you as a person.
At the end of the day, I hope you find your innocent self back again by indulging in something fun and silly. And have no judgement towards yourself.
For me it’s colouring in a colouring book. I hope you do end up colouring something in your life with something you feel connected to, and in the process enjoy it like nobodies business!
Have a nice day you all.